Tuesday 30 April 2013

Song of the Day: Razor's Edge by William Control

Hello readers,
My apologies for being so quiet recently but I have been finishing the final pieces of university work.
Then I took Saturday to see friends and go to Whitby Goth Weekend to see the wonderful William Control.
My song of the day is William Control's Razor's Edge.
Why?
Because mid-song the wonderful William wrapped his fingers around my neck and lightly choked me.
If anyone else randomly choked me I'd have been horrified but it is probably one of the coolest things to have happened to me at a gig ever. Suddenly I was surrounded by many jealous women.
Don't worry - I got to speak with William afterwards and he sort of apologised but I told him I was totally cool with it. In fact he has full permission to choke me a little if he sees me again.

Well, awkward fangirling aside, let's get to the music...



Poetry.

Have currently been working on my first collection of poetry. In truth I think I like writing poetry more than I enjoy writing fiction. It's so much easier to structure and drive. With poetry I never know where I'm going once I start whereas with a novel I feel as if the destination and route must be known and mapped in advance.

Poetry, to me, feels like freedom. You have full control over whether or not you choose to rhyme, how it should be structured. It can be short or an epic. You can write a poem on any topic and you can stop writing as soon as you run out of ideas. It allows for such a variety of styles, such an interesting level of experimentation...


Q:
Who are YOUR favourite poets?
What is your favourite poem?
Let me know in the comments section below - anyone can comment. Just click on the title of this blog, scroll down and click on the pencil symbol. I look forward to hearing your responses.

Sunday 28 April 2013

Same-Sex Marriage: A Time for New Traditions?

After the wonderful news recently about New Zealand and France legalising same-sex marriage it has been a wonderful time. In fact, only hours after the legislation passed in New Zealand, I received a touching message from a relative in Wellington offering to help arrange and host a wedding there if the UK 'doesn't hurry up' any time soon.

In this new age where more and more countries are beginning to recognise love and re-evaluate marital legislation is now the time to further consider what marriage means to us? This seems as good a time as any to create new traditions for this formal expression of love.

Sure, we're all aware of the basic components of a wedding in our respective culture be it a certain kind of clothing, agreements on who pays for such an event, how the service plays out, what words are spoken. These are traditions that have been built up for some time now within heterosexual marriages but should we be considering new traditions for same-sex marriage? One possible alteration I've considered seems rather nice. Previously, when a woman married a man, in some cultures she would take his last name to represent the union. In a couple with two men or two women who takes on the name of their partner? This seems a little problematic in the sense that many LGBTQ persons in a same-sex relationship are asked that all too common and misguided question: 'So which one of you is the guy/girl?'
It should be obvious that, being a same-sex relationship, this question is offensive as it assumes heteronormativity and that a relationship must be a binding of something masculine and something feminine. Perhaps a new tradition could be that couples collectively choose a new name for themselves, a name chosen together to follow them through their married life together based on a shared decision. In fact this seems a nice idea for marriage regardless of gender and could be an interesting change to the traditional name taking.

The dawn of a new age of marriage is upon us. I look forward to seeing the evolution of wedding ceremonies and the development of love and relationships and the way society perceives them.
Be kind to each-other.

Dreams

Most of us find inspiration for writing in our dreams. In fact that seems to be where I get most of my ideas.

When I was younger my nightmares were so bad that my mother once bought me a dream catcher that still hangs in my bedroom.

In fact last night I dreamt that I'd fallen out with a friend of mine. I can't quite recall what we argued about in the dream but I woke up questioning if it had happened or not for a few minutes. I almost called her up to discuss the matter before realising that none of it actually happened.





Q:
What was the last dream YOU had?
Do you ever write down your dreams?
What was the weirdest dream you've ever had?
Let me know in the comments section below.

Raising The Bar: Why are piercings still holding people back from jobs?

Here I am finishing my university degree and finding myself once more in the tedious ceremonial that is the job hunt. The constant string of CV printing, interviews and searching. This is a fairly unpleasant process for most, but for someone with facial piercing it's always a bit more uncomfortable. We're always told to not get piercings because they are 'unprofessional' and will apparently hold us back from jobs but I'm still unsure why this is even a problem. In India, Pakistan, Nepal and even Aboriginal culture nostril piercing is a traditional and cultural practice. More and more young people are becoming interested in body modifications, many of whom start getting facial piercings and tattoos in their late teens and early twenties. Why is it that employers still seem so against piercings?


Since my early teens I'd wanted a lip piercing. The desire kicked in when I was around the age of fifteen. Of course at this time I wasn't able to get a piercing and even when I was I waited. It seemed such a big change to make that I wanted to wait and be sure if I wanted it. At the age of nineteen my opinion on the matter hadn't changed and so I excitedly scampered off to the tattoo and piercing parlour around from my apartment. Of course, before doing so, I had done a lot of research. I wanted to know about post-piercing hygiene and maintenance. I researched different piercing methods. I looked up all the piercing places in town before getting pierced to ensure it'd be done in the most hygienic way. The sheer amount of care and effort I put into the process spanned years. It certainly wasn't a spur of the moment decision. I have my nose pierced as well as a single stud through my bottom lip. I had no problem with it until at my most recent job. I had asked during the interview if my piercings would pose any problem since I was working within the food industry. I even offered to get a clear retainer piercing if it would help. The interviewer simply said no and essentially hired me on the spot. We agreed that the only way my piercings could be unhygienic or problematic would be if I was rubbing the pierced area directly over the food, a crime which stands on its own merit. Later, however, a fellow employee felt it necessary to inform me how lucky I was to have a job with piercings. She made several rude comments about how it looked unprofessional and how next time I looked for a job I wouldn't be 'so lucky' despite the fact that she herself had several blotchy, self-inked tattoos on her hands and up her arms.

Some may say that as an employee you are the face of the company or establishment you are working for and that, should the face have a piercings, that is a negative representation. Again, I ask why? What harm does a little amethyst nose-stud do that it entirely misrepresents the whole company? Is the company so shallow that they are utterly undermined when their receptionist has a lip ring? We seem perfectly fine with earrings, but why does a lip ring seem so offensive? Perhaps because facial piercings are seen as something other from the perceived norms of Western society. This argument, however, seems illogical if ear piercings are accepted whereas other piercings, including those that are traditional cultural practices, are not. The only difference is where the item of jewellery sits.


If someone has got the strength and patience to hold still whilst someone carefully pushes a needle through their face I think that shows a level of obedience and trust that your workplace may, in fact, require and benefit from. I personally feel that having piercings is not in any way unprofessional. What is unprofessional is turning down a hopeful potential employee based on something as arbitrary and superficial as where in their body they choose to wear jewellery instead of focusing on their skills, experience and enthusiasm.


Friday 26 April 2013

Song of the Day: Fight Like A Girl by Emilie Autumn

The official music video for Emilie Autumn's "Fight Like A Girl" has been released and it's pretty cool.
Wild hair, torn stockings and a splash of misandry.

For anyone in the UK, Ms Autumn has a few tour dates later this year.
I hope to see you there.



Another thing I'd love to do...

Having written my B425 list of things I want to achieve over the next few years I'm starting to think about how to achieve them. I have recently remembered something else I'd love to do some time. I'm not sure if it's something I'll be able to do over the next few years since my B425 list is already quite full, but it's definitely on my general bucket list.


I've always loved the humble sea turtle. They often seem like such peaceful creatures so I was saddened to learn how endangered turtles are. I'd love to travel over and take part in a sea turtle conservation project. I'd looked into it before several years ago but couldn't find a job at the time to fund such a trip. The work often involves protecting and monitoring turtle eggs on the beach and ensuring the safety of the eggs. Then you get to watch the wonderful moment as the turtles hatch from their shells and head towards the ocean. I feel that to watch baby turtles follow that innate instinct to head to sea would be an inspirational, beautiful moment to be a part of. You have to collect eggs, keep them incubated, collect data, protect them from predators on their walk to the ocean.

In the mean time you'd spend a lot of time working with your team, camping out on the beach and experiencing coastal life. Technically I have enough money to fund such a trip now but I have my heart set on a trip to New Zealand but I will definitely look into volunteer work of this nature. It seems like such a rewarding thing to do. Rather than simply funding a charity your money as well as your effort goes to help endangered beings. You're provided with the opportunity to really experience the work that goes into sustaining these wonderful animals.

If you're interesting in volunteering for wildlife conservation work, look into it here.
There are several other places that offer such trips. In a year or two when I start looking into it I'll post more links.

Why not consider this for an upcoming holiday?
You'd get to travel, learn about the world and do something exciting and worthwhile...


Thursday 25 April 2013

10 reasons to adopt pets from shelters rather than buying them from stores and breeders.

1) There are loads of lovely dogs there that need a good home that probably didn't have a good start in life and therefore need to be shown some love and kindness. They'll have a second chance at living a happy, normal life.

2) Do you really know where that dog or cat came from? Many dogs and kittens sold in stores or by individuals online have been cruelly bred in puppy farms or kitten farms, their mothers utterly abused in the process. By getting your pet from a shelter you are choosing to not fund animal cruelty. You're saying no to pets bred at the expense of their mother and exploited, sold off for money, without proper veterinary care or socialisation.

3) Many animal shelters are locally run by people from their own pocket or a small amount of charitable funding. Support your local shelter today.

4) You could adopt and older cat/dog after meeting it which gives you the chance to really assess their personality. Sometimes a kitten or puppy acts completely differently once they've reached adulthood. It also means there will be someone to care for their own independent needs as older cats and dogs may require certain care.



5) Adoption fees are usually lower and cheaper than what you'd pay for a puppy or kitten - especially if they're pedigree. In fact many pedigree dogs end up in shelters later on because people bought them for their aesthetics without considering the responsibilities and realities of pet ownership.

6) Many pets from shelters are already spayed/neutered/micro-chipped before they come to you. They've often had all the appropriate vet checks and injections and so you don't have to pay for them later on.

7) Your home will be more lively with a little cat or dog scampering around.

8) It prevents strays from being put down.

9) You can really suit the situation around your needs. Do you live in an apartment? There are cats that specifically need to be kept indoors. You have young children? The dogs are almost always tested to see if they are compatible to a home with children. So much care and examination goes into the adoption process.

10) You'll know in your heart that you've done something good in the world. It may seem like a small thing, a tiny contribution, but you will totally transform the life of that animal for the better if you can provide it with a loving, supportive home.







Don't overlook a pet because they're older or perhaps disabled. Many cats and dogs in shelters have to deal with missing eyes or legs. This doesn't mean that they have any less love to give, it just means they've endured more before meeting you. My family and I took in a rescue kitten not long ago. She and her siblings had been carelessly dumped in a wheelie bin on a hot day. She's still very much affected by her troubled youth but she has made a wonderful addition to the family. In fact black cats are often less likely to get adopted. Perhaps this is due to superstitions about black cats or maybe people are more in favour of colourful felines. I simply ask that you do not overlook black cats simply due to their colour as it has no impact on their personality or suitability as a pet.

Free Tea? Certainly!

Who doesn't love something free?
I know I certainly can't resist the offer when I see it.

As a regular tea drinker this is one I thought I ought to share with you. Twinings tea company give tea drinkers the option to select two sachets of free tea which will then be delivered to their doorstep. All you need to do is boil the kettle. This is great if you're new to tea and want to try or if you fancy trying something new.
All you have to do is click right here and you'll be taken directly to the Twinings website. They even send you a voucher for a discount on any box of their Twinings tea. No, I'm not being sponsored to say this. I'm just a bit of a tea addict. The offer only extends to those living in the UK but I know that the American Twinings website did the same offer not long ago so keep an eye out for it should the offer reappear.

Song of the Day: The Stars (Are Out Tonight) by David Bowie

I do love a spot of Mr Bowie and the music video for this song is absolutely superb.
I need to get around to listening to this full album, perhaps even review it.
Enjoy,


Wednesday 24 April 2013

For all the Game of Thrones fans

Oh my goodness.
I have just seen a brilliant video online.
For some strange reason blogger doesn't seem to want to let me embed the video into this post.
So if you want to see it you'll have to click here

This is why I love the internet. It's this crazy, unpredictable breeding ground and in the right hands it spawns some really entertaining things. This video really made my day - so entertaining.

Song of the Day: The Song of the Lonely Mountain by Neil Finn

Today I've been working. Booooooo, work sucks.
Usually when I'm working I like music, but it has to be music that isn't too distracting. I tend to find that classical music is good, or the scores and soundtracks of films. Today I've been listening to my CD of the soundtrack from The Hobbit. I love Howard Shore and the music he has created for all the Middle Earth films - in fact my Return of the King CD has been played so many times I have no idea why it isn't completely worn out yet. It still plays without skipping, no problems at all. What a trooper.

My song for the day is Neil Finn's 'The Song of the Lonely Mountain' which plays in the credits of the film. It's so good that after I saw The Hobbit (for the third time in this instance) it had be dancing in the cinema like a total loser. I just love the slightly forced line 'a fate unknown....THE ARKENSTOOOOONE'

Love it.


Game of Thrones ... in Central Perk?

Found on the Huffington Post website.
Have you ever wondered what Game of Thrones would be like if you mixed it with Friends?
Of course you have.
Well, this would be the result...



Reads of the Week

After recently sharing some blogs of note I've decided to recommend articles more often - especially since people have been so king as to share my own Huffington Post blogs around. It warms my heart to see how many people have read them and shared them online. Below I've provided some interesting blogs and articles that are currently floating around the internet. In the list you'll find make up artists, aspiring writers, cooking blogs - please have a look through, I hope you enjoy them.
If you have a blog you'd like me to check out for my Reads of the Week post next Wednesday then please let me know in the comments section below.




Writer Problems #4: Inspiration

Writers rarely seem to choose when inspiration hits. It just walks in and will gladly leave. You have to seize it when it comes.
This is why, during our first year of university, our creative writing tutor urged us to keep a book and pen on us at all times.
This way, should inspiration hit, we were prepared to capture it. Unfortunately my inspiration always seems to hit at night time once I've crawled into bed and turned out the light. Five minutes later the greatest ideas hit and I have to apologise to my partner, turn the light on and pick up the pad and pencil that always sits at my bedside.
Thankfully this morning my brain decided to wake me with inspiration in the form of a dream so I started the day writing.

When are YOU most inspired?
Let me know in the comments section below.

Writer Problems #5: Do I ask...?

As a writer, almost anything can serve as inspiration for your creative works.
Sometimes you find yourself to taken with someone you want to translate them into a character in your works but are never sure how to tell them that you've done so.

Will they be flattered by their influence on your work? Will they despise the character and take it as a negative reflection on them?
I mean it's probably best to not tell them if you're used them as inspiration for a villain... Do you tell them or not?

Have YOU ever written a character based on someone in your own life?
Let me know in the comments section below...

Tuesday 23 April 2013

Best online response to 'And Now His Watch Is Ended'

As a massive Game of Thrones fan I can safely say that I was totally satisfied with the most recent episode entitled 'And Now His Watch Is Ended'

My favourite online response to the episode was simply the following two .gif images.
As found on Tumblr:



Creative Writing: End of an Era

The other day I had my last creative writing session ever.
Creative writing sessions have been the best part of university. Once we got over the initial shock of having work critiqued by peers it was mostly a weekly gathering that consisted of two hours of laughter and jokes.

I'll really miss it.

Does this mean I've got to be a big, grown up writer now and do it all on my own? Heavens, no!

Summer

The sun is out longer, the days are warmer and I've just paid off my summer holiday. I look forward to curling up by the pool and reading a book on my trip to Corfu with the girls. I'm looking forward to Slush Puppies in the sun, swimming in the ocean, long flowing dresses and working on my novel in the conservatory of my family home.

What are YOU looking forward to most about summer?

Monday 22 April 2013

Blonde Goths: They do exist!


I'm currently in the preparation process for Whitby Goth Weekend.

Whitby Goth Weekend seems, at times, like some sort of fashion parade. Everyone gets dressed up in their Whitby finest for a wander around the town with their make up applied and hair teased. Some people plan their Whitby outfits months in advance. In fact the sheer effort that people put into their costumes often leaves me feeling a little overwhelmed. Many think that all Goths follow the same aesthetic pattern: pale skin, dark hair, those lusciously painted eyes and a uniform outfit of black. This simply isn't so. In fact I'm currently preparing to do something many would think totally un-Goth.

Like the glorious Anja Huwe of Xmal Deutschland I wish to shine like the Polarlicht. I am currently in the process of lightening my hair. The top is great, all icy blonde, but it fades into Tully auburn/ginger. My hope is to be fully blonde by the end of the week before I head to Whitters - otherwise I may end up cutting out some of the auburn/ginger locks.

I will hopefully have my hair lightened to the correct shade, crimped and teased for next Saturday.
If not the dark stuff'll be torn out leaving me to look like the alternative Miley Cyrus...

Song of the Day: A Case of You by Joni Mitchell

I do love a little bit of the wonderful Joni Mitchell and since today I am feeling Blue, much akin with the album title, this song seemed most fitting.
Joni Mitchell makes for good music to work to.


Sunday 21 April 2013

Redemption for Adora Batbrat

I recently posted a blog about Adora Batbrat and a teaser video she made that appeared to promote or glamorise anorexia but thankfully she has now released the video the teaser was concerned with:



It's great to see Adora confront the use of her image in the promotion of anorexia and thinspiration blogs and I like that she's giving a healthy alternative. It's a real relief after the teaser she posted and I'm glad to see that she handled the video content well. She's also now addressing anorexia not solely as something women experience but something that impacts people regardless of their gender. It seems like Adora has perhaps taken on some feedback from viewers before making this video which seems refreshing. Despite the slightly manic end section it's really good to see a positive response to her previous video.
Bravo.

Song of the Day: Gentleman - Psy

There's no use denying it, guys.
Let's just accept it, embrace it.

I'll be honest, I've enjoyed Psy thus far.
Well... the two songs of his I'm aware of.
Enjoy,


p.s
Does anyone else think the "mother father gentleman" is meant to sound like "motherf*cking gentleman"?
Perhaps those are the 'offensive' lyrics Psy needed to alter before releasing the song?

My take on Gisele Scanlon's "The Goddess Experience"

In 2011 I went through a real slump. I was very depressed and couldn't move much beyond that state.
During this time I noticed a book called The Goddess Experience, a book which was said to list things to make you happy and feel like a Goddess. I decided to buy the book which I then took home and read. It was interesting, certainly a beautiful book, but I found a lot of things in here weren't for me.
I've never been the kind of girl to care about handbag maintenance and I can hardly afford to just jet off to Paris on a whim.

What I did like about the book was the notion of 'micro-pleasures', the small things in our daily lives that can bring personal joy. In the film Amelie our titular protagonist often discusses the various micro-pleasures of the characters, one of hers I share. Pictured below she speaks of the micro-pleasure of dipping your hand into a bag of grain.


So I shall share some of my micro-pleasures with you all...

  • Popping bubblewrap
  • Cracking the top of a creme brulee. This is another suggestion I found in the film Amelie, however I think I enjoy cracking the top more than I enjoy actually eating the creme brulee itself. 
  • Treating myself to something from Amazon every now and then. I keep a wish list for myself and like to treat myself once a month - especially if an item suddenly goes down in price. I've managed to get many books around £3 on Amazon. There's always a sense of excitement when you're then waiting for a little brown Amazon parcel to arrive at your doorstep
  • Holding a warm cup of tea in my hands and feeling it warm my skin
  • Reading the page of a new book; ahh, uncharted territory...
  • Curling up on the sofa with a cat or even sleeping with a cat by your side. There's no sweeter lullaby than the subtle sound of purring.
  • Standing in the rain a little while without worrying about it ruining your hair/makeup. There's something relaxing about the sensation like a momentary feeling of invincibility. 
  • Cracking the ice that settles on the tops of ponds or outdoor liquid surfaces when it's cold.
  • The first pint of cider of summer. Like the sharp taste of liquid sunshine...
  • Taking bottles down to the bottle bank for recycling where you can throw them into the big containers. Not only are you recycling and therefore doing some good, but it seems curative to smash things loudly without causing any harm or damage.
  • Clutching a bundle of clothing fresh out of the dryer up against my body to absorb the warmth. 
  • Pulling my hair up out of my face into a messy bun before reading/working. It's that small ritual that says 'Ok, I'm ready to focus now'

'The Goddess Experience' is definitely a great book with a lot of wonderful suggestions and ideas, I really suggest you check it out if you're looking for micro-pleasures of your own. It really did remind me to try and really focus on the small pleasures that life brings. Over time these micro-pleasures can build up and alleviate your mood.

What are some of YOUR micro-pleasures?
Let me know in the comments section below...



Links:
The Goddess Experience on Amazon.co.uk
TheGoddessGuide.com

Friday 19 April 2013

Song of the Day: Big Hollow Man by Danielle Dax


"Live While We're Young': A message for the YOLO generation.

Though I only faithfully keep up with one or two shows on television, there's a specific realm of TV I can always turn to for a quick dip into the decadent. The realm of which I speak is the wasteland of daytime television filled with reality shows, talk shows and trash TV galore! These are shows you can quickly flow in and out of without committing to any plot or storyline and I must confess I watch a few. Many of these shows, I've noticed, deal with young and crazy teens and their antics. It seems that a prevalent excuse for such behaviour is "I'm young, we teens do crazy stuff. I have to do these things while I'm young and before I grow up" or something to that effect. This is a view further popularised in the hit song 'Live While We're Young' by British boy band  One Direction. Well I for one am tired of seeing 'inspirational' posts on Tumblr and Facebook about the importance of doing crazy things while we're young or having youth cited as the primary excuse for such behaviour.

I hate to be the one to tell you this, kids... but you get to live while you're old too.

In fact you get to act however you want at any age and don't, therefore, have to cram a life's worth of partying into those tender teenage years and early twenties. You can do silly things on a daily basis whatever your age may be. For example, today I'd spent the day relaxing at my home, working on one a conference paper for one of my final university assignments, whilst trying to remain comfortable. When working at home I adorn myself in the usual garb: a band shirt and pyjama bottoms, known as 'lounge pants' to some. Being a perpetual nerdy fangirl I must say that most of my collection of pyjama bottoms are comic book themed. I decided to pop to the supermarket around the corner for milk and tortilla wraps, but my pyjama bottoms were too comfy to remove and so, with a 'throw caution to the wind attitude', decided to go to the shop in my Superman pyjama pants. If anyone stopped to stare, I didn't notice. I know my mother would probably never have allowed such behaviour. I don't justify this behaviour because I'm still relatively youthful. I felt like doing something a little crazy just for the fun of it, for the anecdotes and for the DC Comic related comfort. I think it's little acts like this that bring jubilant energy and entertainment, things you should have the right to experience throughout life.


Saying 'YOLO' or referencing the need for crazy antics whilst young suggests an awareness that the act itself is probably not entirely thought through but it also suggests that crazy behaviour is a privilege of youth. This mindset of 'living in the moment/living while we're young' seems overly perpetuated and a means of regulating societal behaviour which, when you think about it, is silly. To tell someone they're too old to wear specific clothing, to act in a certain way or have certain mannerisms is to shame them. As long as no one is implemented or injured, who are we to regulate the behaviour of others? It's time to stop age-shaming and start accepting others and their choices for themselves. Living in an age where we're so ready to judge and criticise we hear comments like "isn't she too old to wear that?", "she's a mother, it's embarrassing when she goes to parties" or "he looks like he's trying to be young and hip, how sad" which only spread negativity. Drawing a correlation between age and behaviour is to dictate societal norms and how others should behave. The only person who should have any say about your behaviour is, of course, you.

You can live it up at any age. You can go out and drink beer with friends or stay in and read a few Austen novels. You can sleep with as many people you want, or you can stay in at home with your significant other. You can get up to whatever crazy antics or simply choose not to. But to feel regulated by what we are told are societal norms shows that you're allowing arbitrary commandments to dictate your life and actions which simply isn't right. Similarly to feel like youth is the only time to live it up and be silly is limiting as you have a full, vibrant life ahead of you and don't have to fit a lifetime of experiences into a decade. At the end of the day, as long as you're not hurting anyone (and preferably not yourself either) then where's the harm in pursuing personal happiness regardless of age?

Tea

I've noticed a trend, a rising popularity of tea consumption.

I was once a coffee drinker. My family are all coffee drinkers so I followed suit. A year ago, when I was reading the diet book I so often mention, I converted to tea. I specifically devoted myself to green tea. I became an absolute Twinings convert. You'll so often find me drinking their green tea with cranberry (of which I am currently on my third cup) or green tea with lemon (sometimes even a slice of real lemon too, see my post on the health benefits of lemon water)

I can't help but wonder if the sudden, overwhelming popularity of tea has risen due to the Western fascination with British culture. Shows like Sherlock and Doctor Who have become incredibly popular, particularly in America but globally also. Though tea originates from China, it's seen as a quintessentially British thing. I'm constantly seeing posts on G+, Facebook and Tumblr about tea, 'if tea can't solve it then it's a serious problem', 'KEEP CALM AND DRINK TEA' and find myself wondering...

At the end of the day ... isn't it just flavoured water perhaps with a splash of milk or some sugar?

Thursday 18 April 2013

Are we wrong to hate Samantha Brick as much as we do?

Samantha Brick is back in the news and trending on Twitter. As per usual it is for all the wrong reasons.

This time Samantha is writing about her favourite topic, herself, whilst also doing the glamorous job of making people feel awful in the process. The only reason the Daily Mail continue to publish her articles that I can fathom is simply for the hype, publicity and attention they must receive in doing so.

Brick's latest article, which can be seen by clicking here, is about dieting and the importance of staying skinny and has set the social networking world ablaze in the process. Brick details her years of passing out from starvation, the glorification of hunger pangs and how her boyfriends and husbands were chosen because they would pressure her to remain thin. She says she became 'accustomed to surviving on fewer than 1,000 calories a day' which is roughly half the calories women need to properly function.

That was the bit that got me. She seems to mention her male counterparts multiple times and their importance in her weight loss.

Her need to remain thin, her emphasis on beauty, seems like an expression of internalised misogyny. Her husband tells her that if she gains weight he will divorce her. She has mentioned the importance of her father and his role in her life in previous articles. This is a woman who clearly puts weight onto the importance of having a man in her life and feels she must do whatever she can to keep him. This article almost seems like a cry for help, the plea for attention from a desperate woman. She is living within a marriage where her beauty, the thing she seems so obsessed with, is something she has to maintain her focus on for the sake of her marriage. In fact she details her marital role in a further article just as shocking as all the others. Though the article in question about dieting never mentions the term 'anorexia' her described behaviour mirrors that of the eating disorder. The article, however, is problematic as it glorifies such an eating disorder and does so to a wide audience.

This article is dangerous because it promotes body-shaming. She suggests women should feel bad because of their weight, as if the media didn't do this enough already, stating that nothing signifies failure more than fat. Offensive and dangerous though her comments may appear this article clearly comes from the mind of a warped and controlled woman. I get the feeling that something is very wrong here.

Perhaps Samantha Brick is a dreadful, egotistical megalomaniac whose main dietary compound is the life she sucks out of journalism and the attention on which she so frequently feeds... Or perhaps there is much more to be considered here.

What are YOUR thoughts on the matter?
Let me know in the comments section below:

18/04/2013

I am currently tucked away working on the three assignments that stand between this moment and university graduation.
I know I've not been posting as many articles or opinion based blog entries recently as I've spent a lot of that energy creating articles for The Huffington Post (which should hopefully start to appear online soon once they've gone past the editors)
I feel so unworthy blogging on such a website. Other bloggers are writers, CEOs, experts in their respective fields... and then there's me.

Just little ol' me.

I'm incredibly grateful for this opportunity and hope it'll help me work towards more dreams in the future.

I've just paid off my summer holiday. I'll be going to Kavos which will hopefully present several interesting blog topics. I'm particularly interested in looking at booze tourism in the area and lad holidays. Expect some sunny photos and posts on that in July. I'll hopefully come back in time for graduation with a nice glowing tan.

I've submitted two blog entries to HuffPost and have another three in the works.

Once these uni assignments are completed I'm also taking a day trip to Whitby and will hopefully come back with an interesting article on contemporary Goth culture. May try to set up a few interviews - could be interesting.
As I've said before, I'm happy enough to try to work on any suggestions you've got for me. If there are any topics you'd like me to try and cover let me know in the comments and I'll try my best.

My love and respect goes out to anyone currently in the final stretch of their university degree - you're almost there, lovely people!

Creative work still coming along and I still aim to have a short book of poetry, a collection of short stories and a novel done by the end of the year (ambitious? moi?)

Thank you for reading, blog-ghosts. Hope you're having a lovely day



Wednesday 17 April 2013

Song of the Day: Bonjour Tristesse by Juliette Greco

The DVD case of this film sits at my side. It's empty. This is one of my more annoying habits but I have faith the disc is somewhere amongst my possessions. That said it reminded me of this wonderful song from a wonderful film based on a wonderful novel.
This song, to me, is the musical embodiment of depression itself.
The words holds such a melancholic power that truly resonate through me whenever I hear it. I recommend you listen to the song, watch the film and read the book by Francoise Sagan which is probably easily found on Amazon.
Enjoy, lovely people.
I hope that, if you relate to this most powerful song, you feel good today or that you feel better soon.


Congratulations, New Zealand!

Well congratulations to New Zealand for legalising same sex marriage. This marks another step in the journey for marriage equality.

Readers, I'd like to share with you one of the most moving things I've seen in some time. Here we see the video of the third reading of the amendment bill, the moment where it is announced that the house is in favour of same sex marriage. All of a sudden someone in the gallery breaks out into song Pokarekare Ana, a traditional Maori song from New Zealand and once I'm particularly fond of. Soon members up in the gallery and below stand and sing together to mark this momentous occasion. In all honesty I must admit that this video had me tearing up. It's such a beautiful moment, please watch.

Thank you, New Zealand.
You are now even more awesome than before.



Tuesday 16 April 2013

Song of the Day 16/04/2013: Down Under by Men At Work

Because of reasons.


Further April Purchases

I had some money. I now have less money. Here's where my money went.
Last week I posted a video about my recent purchases thus serving as recommendations. Today I bought a few random items and I wanted to share.


I've wanted Batman pyjama pants like this for some time now.
I have Batman pyjama pants with images of Batman himself like little comic book panels up my legs but I wanted something like this with the basic black and yellow logo and I finally found it! Yay - something to lounge around in whilst wearing my Batgirl shirt or Batman necklace or...well... you get the point.
Found at Primark, £9
Can also be found on Amazon
Oh yeah... I also bought Superman pyjama pants.
I'm dreadful at buying myself clothes. I'd love to go shopping
and come back with pretty dresses or shoes but that never seems to happen. Instead I have an endless supply of band shirts and bright pyjama pants, the combination that serves as a second skin to me. Also £9 at Primark. I tend to get my pyjama pants or "lounge pants" as they're often called from the men's section of the store. One time a woman at the till saw me hand over a bright pair of comic book themed lounge pants and leaned in to say 'you do know these are from the men's section, right?"
I nodded. So she said 'As in these are for men' and again, I nodded whilst refraining from saying 'Well I have to have something to cover my massive penis' just to see how she'd react. Without considering that I may be buying them for a male friend or family member she felt the need to almost tell me not to buy something as if it were against my gender. I almost make a habit of checking the men's section for bright, beautiful lounge pants now.


Then I found a bunch of books in a local discount book shop...
Having paid off my summer holiday this morning I turned my mind to summer reading and purchased five books for the grand price of £5.50. All of these books are, at present, complete mysteries to me. I get a strange rush when buying new books, especially when I know so little about them, as it means I have something to discover. It means that the literary adventure ahead is still unknown to me.


This was the first book that I noticed. Firstly because it was Robin Hobb, an author often suggested for fans
of Game of Thrones or Lord of the Rings. Secondly because of the 50p price sticker slapped across the cover. Sure, it's the third book in a trilogy, but it prepares me and gives me a good excuse to get the previous two books. Sadly the shop didn't have the previous two books but I shall certainly keep an eye out for them in the discount stores in town. I highly recommend supporting discount and second hand book shops in your local area. I've managed to find so many great, affordable books at such shops.



Looking for books that would take me to interesting places I'd never been before, I picked up Penney's 'The Tenderness of Wolves' as it is a murder mystery set in Canada around the 1860s.
Canadian literature seemed prevalent on my university modules and so I decided to read something else set in this land I've so far only come across in fiction. The title seemed interesting and I look forward to a good crime novel.











I initially picked up 'The Demi-Monde: Winter' by Rod Rees as I was intrigued by the steampunk style cover. By the second or third line of the blurb I added it to the pile of books I was clutching in my arms. Definitely seems like a book for anyone who appreciates films such as The Matrix or Inception.

Also I'm a sucker for any book that starts with a map of fictional lands.










The most expensive of my book purchases, coming in at a whopping £2, is a story of murder and seduction. Set in Kenya the novel explores post colonial issues and details from a real murder.
Focusing on the tale of Alice de Janzé, and using real records and details of her life, this will hopefully be a really interesting read.
I've already perused the opening paragraph and I feel I'll enjoy it.












Well so far I've had books that promise to transport me to snowy Canada or the sweltering backdrop of Kenya. Saraswati Park shall hopefully then take me to Bombay. The book by Anjali Joseph focuses on the fictional area of Saraswati Park, said to be located in suburban Bombay, is a tale of work, marriage and life in general.

















I also bought a small pair of turtle shape stud earrings from Bijou Brigitte for around £12.95. I've long been a fan of Bijou Brigitte and their jewellery and these little silver stud earrings just seemed really cute. I'm dreadful at wearing earrings and hadn't worn or bought any since last year. I was actually shocked that my ears remained pierced and I was able to fit them in





What have you treated yourself to as of late?
Where do you usually buy your books?
Let me know by leaving a comment below,

The Huffington Post

It is with joy, gratitude and much excitement that I announce I now have been given the opportunity to blog for The Huffington Post UK.  It's different from being a journalist, I do this without any pay or specific benefits, but I'm glad to be able to work alongside such a prestigious website.


This is something I wouldn't even have considered were it not for this blog and the success I've had here. I also would not have considered this without you, the readers taht so regularly stop by. I'll still be blogging here and hopefully just as frequently. I'm currently in my last two weeks of university - and to think I started blogging a month ago and the end seemed so far away.

I'll be a little quieter over the next few weeks as I finish my final three pieces of university work and then I'm all yours. Expect lots of reviews and articles from May onwards. I hope you enjoy reading my blog as much as I enjoy writing it. Once I have posted something on the Huffington Post blog I'll post a link here.

Thank you, dear blog-ghosts*, for taking the time to read my ramblings. If there are topics you'd like me to try to cover or discuss, let me know. If you would like me to interview you here, let me know. If you have an album/book/work you'd like me to review here, let me know.


*blog-ghost (noun) a viewer of the Welcome to the Birdcage blog.


Also welcome to the new viewers/blog-ghosts from Denmark, Sweden and Switzerland.

Monday 15 April 2013

Student Experience: The Time of Our Lives?

During the university application process we're told that our time at uni will be the time of our life, something we were similarly assured about secondary school, but we're hopeful nonetheless. It's a wonderful time to seek and explore our independence. It gives us the chance to move away from where we've grown up and 'find ourselves' in a new corner of the world. It allows us to learn alongside other fine minds with wonderful lecturers and resources so as to better ourselves and explore our own mind and human conciousness. We're told to enjoy this so called 'student experience' that lies ahead but is the student experience a great time for all of us? As someone coming out of the other end of the university experience I can safely say that the 'student experience' isn't the same for each student.

What drew me to the University of Huddersfield was  the feel of the town. Cast against the rolling hills of Yorkshire it had a quaint charm similar to the small, sleepy town in Hertfordshire where I'd grown up but with the feeling of a small city at the centre of the town. I visited the town the day after my 18th birthday. I can recall meeting for drinks with a friend after the open day where we sat at a bar called Dogma, now called 'The Zetland' having changed hands many times over, and legally being able to order myself a cocktail and feeling very proud of my new rights.

When I started at the university it was an exciting time. I was in awe when I entered my first proper lecture theatre. In pursuit of quenching an academic thirst I tried to soak up the experience around me. On my first night in student halls I was invited on a night out where, when speaking to people and exchanging the usual pleasantries of 'what course are you doing?' and 'what inspired you to come to university?', I didn't always found the answer I expected. Quite a few people stated that they wanted the 'student experience' and to have three years to party and let their hair down as some sort of rite of passage. You'd see posters around the town that boasted about the 'student experience' or making statements about how students should be out doing stupid, crazy things.  Many came to university because it seemed 'fun' or they didn't know what they'd do otherwise and university seemed the default option. I worry that a lot of people coming to university come for the wrong reasons: to experience this freedom to party and live alone and be without rules or perhaps because they didn't know what else to do or where else to go. A student is defined as someone who is studying, a person in the pursuit of knowledge and an education, but so many saw the three or so years of study as a gateway to adulthood. It was a time where they could get funding to live in their own place and drink, party and be wild as their hearts should like.

I feel a lot of these people, even myself, may have benefited from simply taking a year out to solely focus on their own desires and pursuits rather than plunging into something blindly or entering for the wrong reasons. So many go to university expecting the wild and hedonistic student lifestyle only to be utterly bewildered by the demands of a university education. The friend I met for drinks with on my first visit to Huddersfield for the University Open Day sadly did not graduate. There are many that stood with me in the Creative Arts Building on my first day that won't be standing in the Graduation Hall in July.

I suppose what I'm saying, to you as a reader, is that if you are going through the university application process or considering study question why it is you want to study. This will be a challenging time in your life, but hopefully vastly rewarding too. If you're still unsure of whether or not university is right for you then I urge you to read my own personal review of my own student experience. Was university difficult for me? Yes. It was the biggest challenge I've faced yet. Was it worth it? You bet it was, but it's only worth the energy and effort you put in.

Justin Bieber: Pathological Egotist

Justin Bieber, the Marmite of pop music, is at it again. Bieber recently caused upset online when it was reported he signed the book at the Anne Frank House and Holocaust Museum by stating that he hoped she'd be a Belieber were she alive. Did you hear that? It's the sound of millions of people smacking their forehead in a massive, collective facepalm.

Now some people don't see this as too offensive, whilst arguably there is cause for upset in that it certainly wasn't the time or the place to write such things. In one of the most emotive holocaust remembrance sites to focus more on yourself and your achievements over the death of a poor young women and one of the most influential people within our history seems egotistical and inappropriate. Statistically, if Anne Frank were alive today and a young woman with contemporary hobbies and sensibilities, she may have been a Bieber fan but this point seems irrelevant. To be standing in a building that stands as a memorial of the atrocities of war to focus on your fame and achievements shows he failed to leave with the intended message and response. This comment was self-obsessed and immature with Justin leaving us with this megalomaniac image.

What's worse in this situation is that so many Beliebers have tweeted in response questions such as "who is anne frank?"
This exposes a much darker problem. If teens haven't been educated enough to know who Anne Frank is, what else have they missed out on in their education? My mother and father too kit upon themselves to take us to visit war memorials and even locations like Auschwitz and Birkenau so that we would have a deeper understanding of the devastating impact of war and genocide. Though not everyone can travel to such places so as to experience them these are crucial monuments within our collective history that ought to be known and remembered. I suppose the silver lining here is that some people will now know of Anne Frank and learn something from the experience.


Fame seems to have robbed Justin of all sense of humility. This comes after a wave of recent mishaps on Justin's time in Europe. He's had monkeys detained at airports, come on stage almost 2 hours late in London, getting into fights with paparazzi photographers out on the street all while claiming that the world and press are against him whilst tweeting his voice over the thousands of voices from upset fans. After waiting almost 2 hours the social networking world was ablaze with messages about Biebs and his lateness which he then tweeted saying he was only around 40 minutes late as if to suggest his voice and opinion had more credit than the thousands of upset fans at Wembley Stadium. This shows a great level of disrespect towards his Beliebers. With a new Bieber trending topic every other day the sweltering heat of devotion from his fans comes across as obsessive and manic. This young man seems to have fans eating out of the palm of his hand which is worrying for someone so young. This is someone who, in interviews, has said to a gaggle of teenage fans that abortion is wrong and even if it happens as a result of rape 'everything happens for a reason'.
Anyone who attempts to even justify rape in my books is deluded. From the mass of bad press the kid has been receiving it seems odd that his fans seem forever apologetic for his actions, someone they'll probably never meet, and to this obsessive and borderline toxic degree.


Speaking of star antics... what's Lady Gaga up to these days? She's totally vanished from my conciousness these past few months.

Song of the Day: Once In A Lifetime by Talking Heads

For the song of the day I picked an older tune that has a strange way of making me feel better whenever I hear it.
"How did I get here?"



Co-Parenting.

This blog is going to be about same sex relationships and raising children.
Now WAIT. 
Some of you may be thinking "Gay is wrong, dur dur dur, I ain't readin' this" - if so, READ THIS FIRST.
I will say it now: I will not tolerate any form of homophobia on this blog. This post is about love and all I ask is a pinch of tolerance. Now that's said, let's continue. Before we get started, here is a venn diagram worth familiarising yourself with.



If this seems confusing, maybe it's something to discuss in later blogs. It seemed like a good place to start: people have varied views on sexuality, gender identity, gender expression etc. The diagram depicts the lack of correlation between these different components of our identity, a very important notion. Gender is something we are so heavily taught. Once these images and teachings are de-constructed it all seems strange and arbitrary. I'm writing this blog post because I saw an article elsewhere with a title along the lines of "Gay parents just as capable as straight parents" and seemed like it was posed as breaking news. My first reaction was "really"? People are only figuring this out now? The article then was concerned with a recent study in same-sex co-parenting. Notice how I used the term "Co-parenting" as the blog title. Not "same-sex parenting" as if to suggest a difference between parenting that is "same sex" against parenting that is "heterosexual" - instead it focuses more on parenting between a couple, people who co-parent, rather than a family raised by one solitary parent/guardian/family member and anything that seems specific to parental gender.

recent article that can be seen here discusses how same-sex couples have been urged to expand their families as they make great parents and the UK Government has been urging same-sex couples to adopt. In particular the study found certain anxieties concerning potentially negative effects for children being placed in same-sex families to be unfounded and that same-sex co-parents raise children as successfully as heterosexual co-parents. What is important to remember here is that all families are different. They will uphold different values, have different hobbies and have different practices or beliefs. By moderating and regulating families and attempting to define 'family' for a wide group of people is wrong. It is simply wrong to define the meaning of 'family' on behalf of another family. What does this study mean in the overall fight for equality? Where LGBTQ folk have had difficulty adopting or conceiving children in the past attempting to normalise the process will continue to secure good households in which children can thrive. Over time it will hopefully help same-sex co-parenting be seen as more socially acceptable to those who currently do not support it.


One of the main arguments against same-sex marriage is that such marriage shouldn't exist if it cannot biologically result in children.
Problems with this?
  • Infertile heterosexual couples are still allowed to marry.
  •  Heterosexual couples who do not wish to have children are allowed to marry.
  • Same sex couples can have children through IVF, surrogates, sperm donors etc.
  • With a world that is currently as overpopulated as ours is procreation really our primary worry here? I can understand the importance of creating children within marriage when life centred around procreation as a means of survivor however this is no longer the case. 
Everyone should have the right to have a child if it is their desire. There are ways to create children without heterosexual intercourse and therefore this argument is invalid. Anyone who will argue further and suggest that gay male-identified persons in particular pose a threat to children, a threat of a sexual nature, are really scraping the barrel for reasons that are ultimately unfounded once more. To make such comments one ought to have a basic understanding of the psychology of sexuality and psychosexual dysfunction but I can tell you if anyone is a threat to their child it is not because of their sexuality but their personal sexual upbringing and the state of their mental health. 

In preparation for this post I actually Googled "why gays should not adopt" or something to that effect and will now share some of the 'reasons' I found.

  • 'While exceptions occur, the norm in nature is that offspring are nurtured by mother and father. To legally allow adoption by gay couples is to encourage what is an unnatural upbringing.'
So if the norm, a 'natural upbringing', is a nurturing relationship by a mother and father what about children raised by a single mother or a single father? Is that family unit suddenly invalid? 

  • 'Homophobic language and behavior is still common in society. Placing a child too young to have an opinion of their own in the care of a gay couple exposes them to this prejudice, and subjects them to ridicule or violence. Whatever ideal we might have, the psychological and physical welfare of the child must come first.'

It's common in society because it is a part of society. LGBTQ people are society as much as heterosexual members are. Placing a child within a family doesn't expose them to prejudice. Bringing a child up in a prejudiced home exposes them to prejudice. Prejudice, a preconceived opinion not based on reason or experience, is more likely to occur in a home where homophobia or similar behaviours/thoughts are openly expressed or encouraged. Many people are prejudiced in their own way: we may dislike certain companies we've not done business with, we may think things about celebrities we've never met based on small details about them... these are all thoughts that aren't exactly specific to sexuality and imposing larger prejudices on them that concern a large percentage of the population is a prejudice worth avoiding as it creates an antisocial and hateful environment that the child will then be raised in.


  • 'Gay parents will create gay kids'
Right. Because heterosexual parents have never given birth to LGBTQ kids because of the influence of their own sexuality. Children will have their parents as well as other external role models. As they grow they'll develop in their own way as all children, as all people, always do.







Interracial romance and marriage was once seen as taboo with the view that races 'shouldn't mix' especially when it came to creating children. Eventually this is a view that the majority deemed ignorant and no harm has come to society.

As I said in my last post on same-sex marriage: love is love and love is lovely.
Most importantly here we have to simply learn to love each other and realise that a family according to Google is defined simply as 'a group consisting of parents and children living together' - nothing gender specific here, guys. What may be a family to you may be different from the meaning to family to others.
What is most important here is not the sexuality of the parents, but the love that holds a family together